Chaman ko chaman ki baharo ne loota,
kashti ko safar ke kinaro ne loota,
aap toh ek hi kasam se dar gaye mere dost,
hame toh aapki kasam dekhar hazaro ne loota.. …

My Sister My Best Friend !!

The best thing of my life happened on 14th april, 1991. Yes i was no longer alone i had my best companion of life my SISTER. I pampered her like my doll and took all care , she was my princess !! We had all the fun together and we don't need anyone else if we are together. We have shared many laughs , and tears growing up over the years. As the years passed i realized she became my care taker and one for whom i look forward for advise. this post is dedicated to you my dearest APURVA for all the love. Love u lots !!!!!

"God answered all my prayers one by one,

and sent you to my way.

He knew I needed someone in my life,

so special and so dear.

I found you in most unexpected place,

while I was not even looking.

My world started changing day by day,

with so much joy and endless love.

All your love and caring gave me the strength,

to go on with this life.

You have been my biggest support,

and hope during the difficult times.

You are my bright light and angel sent,

from the heavens up and above.

My Sister and My Best Friend,

to hold onto in this life.

God created you with so much love,

and with all the beauty inside and out.

I am the most lucky one,

that I have found you in this life.

Sharing the smiles and laughter,

although we are far and miles apart.

You are always on my mind,

and always close by at heart.

I will always love you

and cherish you until the day that I die."

Now as as we are so far apart still our hearts are close . I will always be there for you ra..Miss you lots !!Hugs And Kisses !!

Everything thts about me ...

I realized lately that i have never ever written few things about me .. so here are few shades of my life ....

I was always a happy girl with happy childhood. Though i was very lonely because of the place where i lived. We were not allowed to go outside so most of the time i was at home with no friends at all. But then god gave me the best gift of my life My Sweet Sister and my life changed. We luckily moved to Nagpur. I love that place a lot . I made few good friends ( i am quite choosy about friends). I always had this smile on my face which made my teachers give me a nickname after that . I was very mischievous funky girl at school always doing something or the other and getting punished :P (I know only few of them who know me well would believe that!) . I formed gangs and we used to have "adda" at school :) and we used to go out bunk the classes and collect those ' ber' , guava and kachha mangoes and distribute among our friends at the 'adda' .. it was all fun .. I thank many of my teachers at school( especially maths and english mam) who made me realize my potential its only because of them i am what i am .....

i was there in nagpur for about 10 years. I got used to that place hanging around with friends having getogethers , attending tution classes together, bunking them together :) ...eating panipuris , nightouts ( Miss you reema , chayanika, seema, santosh and mridula :( ........).My dad gt transferred to Hyderabad and i had to leave that place unwillingly.

I used to hate hyderabad intially. I ruined my Eamcet. I dint like my college my branch anything. I commited few mistakes out of my immaturity which i regret today . Gradually i made few bestest frends of mine. Again my hangouts , niteouts and the fun started :) and i was all happy again. Four years passed like a blink of eye. Again i had to leave my freinds and family.
But As someone said " the best is yet to come ". I am back here again with my friends enjoying every moment of life .

"All the world's a stage, and all the men and women merely players: They have their exits and their entrances...” wrote William Shakespeare, one of the greatest dramatists of all time.

Dependent Personality Disorder

An individual's personality is the complex of mental characteristics that makes them unique from other people. It includes all of the patterns of thought and emotions that cause us to do and say things in particular ways.While surfing net I came across this article thought it would be good to share as many of us might be suffering from this partially.

Dependent personality disorder is described as a pervasive and excessive need to be taken care of that leads to a submissive and clinging behavior as well as fears of separation. This pattern begins by early adulthood and is present in a variety of contexts. The dependent and submissive behaviors are designed to elicit care giving and arise from a self-perception of being unable to function adequately without the help of others.

Individuals with dependent personality disorder have great difficulty making everyday decisions (such as what shirt to wear or whether to carry an umbrella) without an excessive amount of advice and reassurance from others. These individuals tend to be passive and allow other people (often a single other person) to take the initiative and assume responsibility for most major areas of their lives. Adults with this disorder typically depend on a parent or spouse to decide where they should live, what kind of job they should have and which neighbors to befriend. Adolescents with this disorder may allow their parent(s) to decide what they should wear, with whom they should associate, how they should spend their free time and what school or college they should attend.

Because they fear losing support or approval, individuals with dependent personality disorder often have difficulty expressing disagreement with other people, especially those on whom they are dependent. These individuals feel so unable to function alone that they will agree with things that they feel are wrong rather than risk losing the help of those to whom they look for guidance. Individuals with this disorder have difficulty initiating projects or doing things independently.People with this disorder do not trust their own ability to make decisions and feel that others have better ideas. They may be devastated by separation and loss, and they may go to great lengths, even suffering abuse, to stay in a relationship.

Symptoms

• Inability to make decisions
• Passivity
• Avoiding personal responsibility
• Avoiding being alone
• Devastation or helplessness when relationships end
• Unable to meet ordinary demands of life
• Preoccupied with fears of being abandoned
• Easily hurt by criticism or disapproval

Treatment

There is no specific treatment for this disorder. Psychotherapy may be useful in gradually helping people to make choices that affect their own lives. Medication may also be helpful. Improvements are usually seen only with long-term therapy or treatment.

A Relationship Is Never Just About You !!

A relationship is a bond you have with another person. Its the best way to have fun , share ideas and moreover it allows you to learn a lot about yourself. Any relationship whether its with your family , your lover or your friends needs lot of work to maintain or build upon. No two people are alike, No two people share same interests so its quite natural to have difference of opinion . Understanding each other is the best way to have a healthy relationship.

I have always been lucky in this regard. I have lovely parents, a cute little naughty sister, and a bunch of best friends who care for me the most.

A friend is someone we turn to
when our spirits need a lift,
A friends is someone we treasure
for our friendship is a gift.
A friend is someone who fills our lives
with beauty, joy, and grace
And makes the whole world we live in
a better and happier place.

"When you ask God for a gift,
Be thankful if he sends,
Not diamonds, pearls or riches,
but the love of real true friends."
~Helen Steiner Rice

Every relationship is unique, and you may have your own way of knowing that a relationship is right for you. Even when a relationship is going well, it is important that you still put effort into it and don't take the relationship for granted.

Every relationship has its expectations. Have you ever wondered how it feels when the people you value the most start misunderstanding you. What if you don't come upto the expectations of your loved ones. What if you realize that your loved ones are being indifferent to you.What if expectations of people you like the most differ and you don't want to loose either of them ...

If you are in a situation where you are confused and surrounded by a lot of "what if's" its time to change yourself. Learning to trust someone and being honest with someone may take time but its the best way to maintain a relationship that is on a verge to break.

The best options to do so are
* Be honest and trusting
* Speak out ! communicate with them
* Accept the differences
* Respect each others privacy
* Spend time together

And remember People need people and friends need friends and we all need love. Life depends not on vast riches or great acclaim, not on success or on worldly fame, but just in knowing that someone cares and holds us close in their thoughts and prayers. For only the knowledge that we're understood makes everyday living feel wonderfully good, And we rob ourselves of life's greatest need When we "lock up our hearts" and fail to heed the outstretched hand reaching to find a kindred spirit whose heart and mind are lonely and longing to somehow share . Our joys and sorrows and to make us aware that life's completeness and richness depends
On the things we share with our loved ones and friends !!